Normal doubts which crop up everyday for all of us. I am not giving any solutions here. Just trying to think through. I was impressed by Simon Senek's famous Ted Talk on the golden circle of inspirational leadership, This model proceeds from "What we do?" to "How we do it?" and move on to "Why we do it?" This sequence simplifies our thought process.
Monday, September 20, 2010
DUCKS & EAGLES
He handed the passenger a laminated card and said: “I’m William, your driver. While I’m loading your bags, I’d like you to read my mission statement.”
Surprised, the passenger looked at the card. It said:
William’s Mission Statement
To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment.
The passenger was impressed, especially when he noticed that the interior of the cab was as clean as the outside. Then William got in the cab and said: “Would you like a cup of coffee? I have one thermos of regular and one of decaf.”
The passenger said, “That’s OK. I’d really prefer a soft drink.” William smiled and said, “No problem. I have a cooler up front with soft drinks, water, and orange juice.”
Handing him his drink, William then said, “ If you’d like something to read, I have the New York Times, Time, Sports Illustrated, and USA Today.” And as they were leaving the airport, William handed the passenger another card. This one read, “These are the stations we get and the music they play, if you’d like to listen to the radio.” And if this wasn’t enough, William told the passenger that he had the air conditioning on and asked if the temperature was comfortable enough.
Then he advised the passenger of the best route to his destination for that time of day. He also let him know that he’d be happy to chat and tell him about the sights or, if the passenger preferred, he’d leave him with his own thoughts.
The amazed passenger then asked, “Tell me William, have you always served customers this way?”
William smiled into the rear view mirror and said, “No, not always. In fact, it’s only been a few years. My first 5 years driving, I spent most of the time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard on the radio one morning that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you’ll rarely disappoint yourself. The announcer said, ‘Stop complaining! Make yourself different from your competition. Don’t be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.’
That hit home,“ said William. “That was me. I was always quacking and complaining, so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle. I looked at all the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers unfriendly, and the customers unhappy. So I decided to change some things. I changed a few at a time. When my customers liked it, I put in some more.”
“It looks like it has paid off for you,” said the passenger.
“It sure has,” William said. “My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income. This year I’ll probably quadruple it. You were lucky to get me today. I don’t sit at cabstands anymore. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on my answering machine.”
Thursday, March 11, 2010
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE !
In relationships or workplace the characteristics are more or less same, like …
The Bossy
The Grumpy
The Cry baby
The Slouchy
Option 1
EXPLAIN YOUR PREDICAMENT, if they are open to reason.
Don’t ramble. Be precise what’s troubling and stop. Let them ponder over it.
If you can’t talk, write a note. Again, don’t write an essay.
CONFRONT, if your position in the relationship permits it. Or, even if it does NOT!
Spell out your threshold. And be clear once it’s crossed you will take a call.
LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP, if both above options fail.
But prepare for consequences beforehand.
SWALLOW AND MOVE ON, CURSING YOUR FATE.
ATTITUDE >> Extraversion vs Introversion ( E vs I)
PERCEPTION >> Sensing vs iNtuition ( S vs N)
DECISION MAKING >> Thinking vs Feeling ( T vs F)
RELATION TO OUTSIDE WORLD >> Judgment vs Perception ( J vs P)
Sunday, March 7, 2010
3 elements to keep the love alive! And probably save the marriage too!
Thursday, March 4, 2010
I am carrying a great sword but I am a Coward
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Why we carry our "Strengths' like a cross!

Only one idea explored in 150 words or less. Now that’s already 14 words!
We are the heroes and heroines in our own life, with a character defined by us. Its tough to get out of the mental script, even when a “Hamartia” is playing havoc in our life.
Hamartia or “fatal flaw” of Shakespeare’s tragic heroes – like Hamlet’s Procrastination or Macbeth’s Ambition.
When things are going terribly wrong all around us we blame others or we blame the situation. Very few blame themselves..hmmm.. or is it “ourselves”?! See.. that’s exactly what I meant.
So the “Nice” ones get nicer and nicer to become “soft”. “Disciplined” ones become “rigid”. “Ideas” people become “Dreamers”. “Efficient” ones become “Control Freaks”. If only there is an alarm which rings when we cross the thin line.
So we say “ I am like this.. so what?”, and opt to suffer rather than change.