DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE !

Assuming WE are NOT the difficult ones, I proceed.

Who is Difficult to handle?
In relationships or workplace the characteristics are more or less same, like …
The Bossy
The Grumpy
The Cry baby
The Slouchy

OK, I accept this is too simplistic. One can always see all the detailed sub-categories which Carl Jung and later Myers-Briggs spelt out* …

Coming to our issue of dealing –
Option 1
EXPLAIN YOUR PREDICAMENT, if they are open to reason.
Don’t ramble. Be precise what’s troubling and stop. Let them ponder over it.
If you can’t talk, write a note. Again, don’t write an essay.

Option 2
CONFRONT, if your position in the relationship permits it.  Or, even if it does NOT!
Spell out your threshold.  And be clear once it’s crossed you will take a call.

Option 3
LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP, if both above options fail.
But prepare for consequences beforehand.

This should NOT be Option 4
SWALLOW AND MOVE ON, CURSING YOUR FATE.

*16 types based on 4 Dichotomies –
ATTITUDE  >> Extraversion  vs  Introversion ( E vs I)
PERCEPTION  >> Sensing  vs  iNtuition ( S vs N)
DECISION MAKING >> Thinking  vs Feeling ( T vs F)
RELATION TO OUTSIDE WORLD >> Judgment vs Perception ( J vs P)

3 elements to keep the love alive! And probably save the marriage too!

I came across this concept and thought it was a very sensible one. Hope it clarifies the confusion which many of us have, but cant word.

Sternberg's Love Triangle is a theory regarding the various facets of love. It states there are three factors in the love triangle model - INTIMACY, PASSION and COMMITMENT.

Intimacy exists when thoughts and feelings are shared.

Passion is the physical desire to want a person.

Commitment is the value placed on the relationship.

When a person is intimate, without being passionate or committed, there is a good friendship;

when a person is passionate without being intimate or committed, he or she is a flirt.

Thirdly, with only commitment, there is only a 'dead' relationship.

Intimacy and Passion together make up romance - the stuff all lovers are made of.

Passion and Commitment without intimacy is seen in adolescent love, or in cases of superficial love in early days of love when passion rules.

Commitment and Intimacy without passion happens when two people are either best friends or when there is no 'spark' in a marriage.

The detailed triangle can be seen here

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/2/26/Triangular_Theory_of_Love.gif