I am carrying a great sword but I am a Coward

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This Happiness blog is actually painful! The exercise has become a personal stock taking and the flaws are in Black & white.

We try to control our personal universe - family, work place and community. When it’s not effective we recheck only the external parameters. "What’s wrong in this scenario? Why it’s not working"

Stephen Covey says the realization is altered when we stop thinking “Outside In” and start looking "Inside Out".

Ask

"Do I possess the characteristics to get this situation in my control?"

"Am I sending the right signals to the people around me?"

The first step - I have to give up my resistance to truly look at myself without the cosmetic ‘soft light’.

The second step – Articulate my flaws loudly. As it’s often said, habits by sheer repetition concretize the character.

The third step – Put in an action plan to eradicate these failings.

Thiru Valluvar gave me a slap on the face “Having idealistic plans for society without personal management, is like a coward being given a great sword”

Why we carry our "Strengths' like a cross!

Only one idea explored in 150 words or less. Now that’s already 14 words!

We are the heroes and heroines in our own life, with a character defined by us. Its tough to get out of the mental script, even when a “Hamartia” is playing havoc in our life.

Hamartia or “fatal flaw” of Shakespeare’s tragic heroes – like Hamlet’s Procrastination or Macbeth’s Ambition.

When things are going terribly wrong all around us we blame others or we blame the situation. Very few blame themselves..hmmm.. or is it “ourselves”?! See.. that’s exactly what I meant.

So the “Nice” ones get nicer and nicer to become “soft”. “Disciplined” ones become “rigid”. “Ideas” people become “Dreamers”. “Efficient” ones become “Control Freaks”. If only there is an alarm which rings when we cross the thin line.

So we say “ I am like this.. so what?”, and opt to suffer rather than change.